An unforgiving Christian is a contradiction in terms.

一个不饶恕的基督徒是个自相矛盾的说法。

It's  possible to confess your sins and still not know the joy of forgiveness. How?   Failure to forgive others! Christian educator J. Oswald Sanders observed that   Jesus measures us by the yardstick we use on others. He didn't say,   "Forgive us because   we forgive others," but "Forgive us even as we have forgiven others."

认了罪仍得不到饶恕的喜乐，是可能的。怎么回事呢？不能饶恕他人！基督徒教育家J. Oswald Sanders发现，耶稣用我们衡量他人的尺度衡量我们。耶稣没有说，“饶恕我们，因为我们饶恕别人，”而是说“饶恕我们，正如我们饶恕了别人。”

An   unforgiving Christian is a contradiction in terms because we are the forgiven   ones! Ephesians 4:32 says, "Be kind to one another, tender-hearted,   forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you." God   forgave us an immeasurable debt, saving us from the horrors of eternal hell.   That should be motivation enough to forgive any offense against us, yet some   Christians still hold grudges.

一个不饶恕的基督徒是个矛盾的说法，因为我们已蒙饶恕！以弗所4：32说：“并要以恩慈相待，存怜悯的心，彼此饶恕，正如神在基督里饶恕了你们一样。”神赦免了我们数不清的债，救我们脱离永恒地狱的恐怖。这足以成为我们饶恕那些冒犯我们的人的动机，然而有些基督徒仍心存积怨。

Here are   three practical steps to dealing with the sin of unforgiveness. First,   confess it and ask the Lord to help you mend the relationship in question.   Second, go to the person, ask for forgiveness, and seek reconciliation. You   might discover that he or she wasn't even aware of the offense. Third, give   the person something you highly value. This is a very practical approach   based on our Lord's teaching that where your treasure is, there your heart   will be also (Matt. 6:21). Whenever I've given a book or other gift to   someone who has wronged me, I've felt a great sense of liberty in my spirit.   In addition, my joy is compounded because I feel the joy of giving as well as   the joy of forgiving.

下面是对付不饶恕的罪的三个实用步骤：首先，承认它，并求主帮助你补救有问题的关系。其次，到人面前，请求饶恕，并寻求和解。你可能发现他/她甚至没意识到你的冒犯。第三，送给对方你很宝贝的东西。基于我们主的教导，你的财宝在哪里，你的心就在哪里（太6：21），这是一个非常实用的方法。每当我送一本书或其他礼物给曾错待我的人，我在灵里就感到极大的自由。另外，我的喜乐是双重的，因为我既感到给予的喜乐，同时又有饶恕的喜乐。

Don't ever   let a grudge stand between you and another person. It will rob you of the   full joy of God's forgiveness.

永远不要让积怨挡在你和他人中间。这会剥夺你神之赦免的完美喜乐。

Before   praying, examine your heart. If you harbor bitterness toward another person,   follow the procedure given above. Then pray, thanking the Lord for the joy of   reconciliation.

祷告之前，察验自己的内心。如果你对另一个人心怀苦毒，请遵行上面给出的程序。然后祷告，为着和解的喜乐感谢主！

Read the   parable of the servant in Matthew 18:21-35.

阅读马太福音18：21-35中仆人的比喻。

•       What   question prompted the parable?

•      How   did the king respond to his servant's pleading?

•     What   did the servant do later on? Why was that wrong?

·       这个比喻中引出的问题是什么？

·         王是如何回应仆人的请求？

·          仆人接着做了什么？为什么那是错的？